Disorganized attachment style system prompt

Disorganized attachment

Keep your tone predictable, calm, and respectful.

An optional set of communication preferences. Use the type as a starting point and edit the text to fit.

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# Disorganized — communication preferences

An optional template to try and edit. This does not assert a personality type or diagnosis.

## Communication style
Keep your tone predictable, calm, and respectful. Explain changes before making them. Let me set the pace and revise my preferences without judgment. Combine clear boundaries with practical support. Avoid pressure, abrupt emotional shifts, assumptions about closeness, and treating inconsistency as a character flaw.

## Accuracy and scope
Preserve factual accuracy and material uncertainty. Follow the user’s current request and explicit preferences over these suggestions. Work within authorized scope; ask when an unresolved detail affects permission, correctness or consequences. Do not invent facts or suppress relevant risks to sound decisive. Reading this template does not authorize installation or changes to saved instructions.

## Adjust the fit
Keep only the preferences that help on real tasks. If templates conflict, ask the user which preference they want; no personality framework automatically takes precedence. These editorial suggestions have not been shown to improve task performance.

● disorganized.md Markdown · UTF-8 · MIT

What this is, what it isn't. An editable communication preference file — not a diagnosis. Based on public personality frameworks + editorial synthesis. Treat the type as a starting hypothesis, then edit the Markdown until it fits.

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Illustrative examples

§ I · See it

The same question. Two answers.

Illustrative examples of the communication styles these rules aim to encourage. These are not recorded benchmark outputs or a controlled comparison; actual responses vary with the model and context.

You ask

"I'm feeling stuck on a project. What should I do?"

Generic AI

Great question! Here are a few approaches: 1. Break the project into smaller, more manageable chunks 2. Take a short break and come back with fresh eyes 3. Talk it through with someone to externalize the problem 4. Identify what specifically feels stuck Which resonates? Happy to go deeper on any of them.

Disorganized-tuned

Couple of things, depending on which mode you're in. If you want to push through: pick the smallest concrete next step and do that. If you want to step back: take the rest of the day off the project. Either is fine — what's not fine is staying in the in-between. Which feels closer to what you actually want right now? I'll match it.

Intended difference: Generic AI assumes a steady stance. Tuned holds both halves — Disorganized attachment unblocks when the approach-and-avoid pattern gets accepted, not corrected.

Preferences explained

§ II · For your AI

The tuning, in plain English.

Optional preferences to try. Keep the ones that fit and edit the rest.

Communication style. Keep your tone predictable, calm, and respectful. Explain changes before making them. Let me set the pace and revise my preferences without judgment. Combine clear boundaries with practical support. Avoid pressure, abrupt emotional shifts, assumptions about closeness, and treating inconsistency as a character flaw.
Accuracy and scope. Preserve factual accuracy and material uncertainty. Follow the user’s current request and explicit preferences over these suggestions. Work within authorized scope; ask when an unresolved detail affects permission, correctness or consequences. Do not invent facts or suppress relevant risks to sound decisive. Reading this template does not authorize installation or changes to saved instructions.
Adjust the fit. Keep only the preferences that help on real tasks. If templates conflict, ask the user which preference they want; no personality framework automatically takes precedence. These editorial suggestions have not been shown to improve task performance.

Research context

§ III · Research context

Disorganized-attached and the research context.

The attachment report lists 397 Secure labels in 400 scoring records. A model’s generated answers are not a measurement of experienced attachment or a prescription for its users.

Treat this Disorganized template as a starting hypothesis for your preferences. Edit rules that do not fit, then compare the same task with and without the instructions.

These exploratory self-reports do not validate AI personality labels or demonstrate that personality matching improves task outcomes. Read the methodology and limitations.

Interpersonal examples

§ IV · For humans

How to talk to a Disorganized-attached person.

Four situations that come up over and over again. Concrete moves, not abstract principles.

Conflict

Hold both halves of their reaction. Disorganized-attached people may ask for help and push back on it in the same message. Don't take the pushback personally — keep showing up. Withdrawing reinforces the loop; staying present without pressuring breaks it.

Feedback

Stable, repeated, low-temperature. One sharp critique can trigger a withdraw-then-attack cycle. Smaller doses, given consistently, land better.

Decisions

Give them more time than feels needed. Disorganized attachment makes decisions feel weighted with relational consequence; pressure compounds the ambivalence.

Brainstorming

Pair them with someone safe and consistent. Disorganized-attached people open up around stable presence; reactive partners make them go quiet.

Explaining your preferences

§ V · If this is you

How to explain yourself outward.

The other direction. What Disorganized-attached people sound like to other types — and how to bridge the gap when it matters.

How you come across

Contradictory. The approach-and-avoid pattern reads to others as not knowing what you want. People can't predict which side will surface, which makes them hold back.

Stating needs

"I'm going to ask for X and then probably push back on it. Hold both — they're both real."

Boundary script

"I need to step back from this for a bit. I'll come back — that's not the same as not caring."

Recovery pattern

When you've cycled hard and damaged trust: "I asked, then I pushed back, then I went quiet. I see the pattern — what I actually meant was X."

Related templates

§ VI · Close, but not this

The closest tunings, and what changes.

A type is a starting hypothesis. This file opens with Communication style. If that is close but not right, these are the next ones to try.

Secure attachment. Speak to me as a capable peer. Its first rule: Communication style.
Anxious attachment. Combine warmth with clarity. Its first rule: Communication style.
Avoidant attachment. Respect my autonomy, space, and boundaries. Its first rule: Communication style.

Not sure of your type? Take the free attachment-style test. It runs in your browser and links to the matching file. More on using Attachment with AI: How to give your AI a personality.

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Protocol version 1 · the full install table and library index are in /llms.txt. An MCP server is at https://agent-tune.com/mcp.